Men, Women and Shopping

I don’t about the rest of you guys but I can’t really say I like shopping at all, especially if I’m just tagging along. I’d go as far to say I’d rather investigate a memory corruption error at work than to go on a shopping trip I won’t enjoy.

Depending on circumstances, I could be indifferent, annoyed or even be in a very foul mood when on a shopping trip. A lot depends on how involved I am or would I be bored. Unfortunately, like a lot of men it seems, the shopping trips I enjoy the least at the ones with the girlfriend. This can’t be good for any relationship so I turned to the Internet for advice. I’m not sure whether men and women are programmed to shop together s hopefully some of my findings will be great public service to all.

Typical shopping center food court vendor layo...
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I first suspect the issue lies with the Men so I started by searching for “how to enjoy shopping with my girlfriend” and then I got to “how to let my boyfriend enjoy shopping“. I’m not sure if it’s just a matter of phrasing but I got more relevant links for the first search than the second. Both led to some other interesting pages which I’d include below

Set a post-shopping goal
Plan a light at the end of the tunnel. Whether it’s a 7:00 p.m. movie or a 8:15 p.m. dinner reservation, have a goal that will end the shopping. Make sure it’s a goal that she agrees to and would enjoy or it will appear you’re once again attacking her shopping trip. Also, if you’re both looking forward to it, she won’t be upset about ending her one-day contribution to the economy
via Shopping With Your Girlfriend – AskMen.com
6) Solicited Opinions. Men’s opinions do not always count. Women love to ask their partners their opinion about an item they would like to buy, but they do not really need their men’s opinion, they just want their men to agree with them. Men almost always just end up agreeing just to get it over with.
via Why Men Don’t Enjoy Shopping with Women, Associated Content

I don’t think this just applies to shopping. Women shouldn’t ask for opinion if they are not going to matter or if they do not really want the answer to.

Oh come on. Girls do too much shopping lol. I’m a guy and experienced it a lot. While shopping you could try to do something fun with them. Make him stare at your b….when u say what do you think of this top. Keep him busy. Lol dont make em a butler.
via Shoppin with the boyfriend!!? – Yahoo! UK & Ireland Answers

On the rare chance that he is not distracted by something else or being bored and actually picks out something for you, don’t just brush it off, give it a try in the fitting room. If you get the men involved in the shopping, they will hate it less.

Now on to some other stuff I chance upon that aren’t related to shopping:

If you ask us to communicate, we think it’s a trap. Women say they want me to be honest, but when men let it rip, women don’t like the answers.
2. A man is less likely to feel romantic if a woman is making his life miserable. If you want to cuddle, don’t start a fight over leaving the toilet seat up or not taking out the garbage, Buzzkill.
via 10 Secrets Men Keep From Women | YourTango
Don’t take him shoe shopping
Look ladies, men don’t like shoe shopping. Let me rephrase that–straight men don’t like shoe shopping. Most would rather be bludgeoned to death with their own pair of Adidas. Look, it’s not that we don’t like spending time with you; we just don’t feel comfortable in a women’s shoe store. I blame Al Bundy, but it’s just a fact of life. We’ll be at the food court at Sbarro. Come get us when it’s time to go to Victoria’s Secret.
via 8 things every guy secretly wishes his girlfriend would do | Guyism
Shop with us
The whole “let’s meet back up in an hour” thing is not really okay with us, but we go along with it so we don’t have you sulking in the corner of Macy’s bringing down our department store high. We like to help you decide which pair of jeans makes your butt look better, and we’d also like your opinion on which dress will be better for New Year’s Eve. We will save you the pain and take our girlfriends the majority of the time, but every once in a while a little couples shopping would be appreciated. Yes, we think it’s cute and romantic, and, no, Best Buy does not count.
via Six Things Every Girl Secretly Wishes Her Boyfriend Would Do : College Candy

I can’t say for sure about the rest of the points but I genuinely feel that girls like to shop with their boyfriends.

The important word there is “with”, so if I am to give advice, it would be for couples to shop with each other and not just for any one person. If you girls want someone to accompany you while shopping “for” you, please ask your girlfriends because they know enough about female fashion to be interested and given relevant opinions.

Speaking of which, I should probably go ask Jo what kind of shopping she dislikes doing with me. I think I should probably stop bringing her along when I go scouting for games or electronics prices.

I want to eat chicken rice! (totally random)

Today’s a lazy sleepy day. I’ve been trying to read math but my mind keeps blanking out of me or I’ll get distracted.

I’ve been chatting online with Kris more often ever since we went for her exchange. We had a video conference yday but she can’t hear me properly. Time to get a mic. Any cheapo mic is better than my laptop’s. Kris I miss you too! I would go globe trotting if I had the means. Not to mention bring the terrible math modules over to S/U. -Snaps back to reality-

I’ve had a few unpleasant experiences with services which makes use of high technology recently. The online dress I bought finally arrived. Looks rather different from the pic. Considering how they screwed up the first deal with me and their crappy free gift, I’m not gonna buy from them ever again! Nothing can beat physically going to look at clothes, try out in the dressing room and feeling and caressing the item you’re going to buy. The only frustrating thing about shopping is not being able to find the item you want. It’s like a waste of a whole day. For some strange twist of fate, it’s always harder to find what you’re looking for and eventually when you’re over it, they start popping up everywhere.

Second bad brush with technology is I did an online transfer which didn’t get through. Not even sure what’s the reason for the reject. The interface is sucky.

Timetable matters are almost settled. That’s the third bad brush with technology.

Sometimes I wonder if they really bring more convenience? But hey…they’re gonna my rice bowl in the future.

Quick post cos I’m tired

Met up with the bear fam 2 days ago and I brought them to my favourite ramen place! Haha! It was (almost) full attendance and I’m glad we took time off despite our busy schedules.
Looking back at our jc pics, we’ve shrugged off the babyish look. Physically, we’ve changed. But when the group comes together, it felt like the good old days all together again. It’s like break time where we sit together to have a meal. All of it…seems to be re-enacting itself.

I received a call from True Yoga this morning, telling me that I won a 2 weeks trial through Starhub. Seriously, it came across rather convincingly. Until, I searched them up the net and found lots of unpleasant stuff. Upon much more pondering, I realise how stupid I was to give them my name. Drats! Am I going to receive endless calls from them?

Bought stuff from fox again today. Love it! The cotton tops are cheaper and the cashier surprised me with their hidden 30% discount. Most stores publicise their trick discounts to get people in but the ads for the discounts at fox are ninja like. Spot them if you can!

The “GREAT” Singapore Sale

My shopping experience haven’t been very enjoyable in the past few years. Even with encouragement to retailers such as “gems”, I feel that many sale promoters have failed miserably in making my shopping experience a pleasant one. (Which probably explains why I blog more about food)

Put off #1: Stalking salesperson.

Salesperson that follow me through all the aisle and stare at what I’m looking at or pick out clothing that isn’t my style and give comments such as “I think this suits you really well”. It gives the message that she’s being too eager to meet her sales quota rather than genuinely wanting to help. The worst of some stalking salesperson is they can’t tell me what other designs,colour or sizes that they have when I ask them questions.

Put off #2: Welcome!

Another very irritating occurance of shopping experience here is the shouting of “welcome!”. It made me feel less welcomed and more eager to make a U-turn.

Put off #3: Great sale?

Much worst is GSS. Like a little gimmick meant to get rid of old useless stocks in which the sizes were either too large or too small and they were all chucked in this big big tray where people shove their hands in to get a lucky pick. Many times, I would see a 70% sale signboard outside the shop only to find small prints upon a closer look which goes something like “applicable to certain items only”. Even if such a warning does not stop you, you’ll enter the shop to find a small corner of for sale items.

However, there is ONE shop which has made me very very happy yesterday. It is FOX at J8. When I entered the shop, one lady near the entrance smiled at me. It was after dinner and there were nobody except us in the shop. Even so, she left me to browse through the clothes and enjoy the music that was being played over the stereo. I asked her what designs of shorts were available and she immediately put down what she was doing n showed me where all the shorts were. Moreover, the staff there were very patient when I asked for smaller or larger sizes. The best part of it was they were having a storewide 20% and it wasn’t old leftover stocks. It was a real sale! Only the new arrivals were not part of it but that’s understandable.

I came out a very happy customer. Fox rocks!